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April Play Therapy Wrap-Up

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· May 8, 2018 
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Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. -C.S. Lewis

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April was autism awareness month as well as child abuse prevention month. Our post this month showed the staggering statistics of child abuse, as well as highlighted methods to keep child therapists who work with abused children trained and emotionally healthy. Dr. Gary shared valuable resources for child therapists working with abused children. Read more here.

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Children learn to regulate their emotions by watching the adults around them. That can seem stressful in and of itself, and you might find yourself saying, “Do as I say, not as I do!” But it’s OK for your children to learn their cues from you. You just have to be mindful of what you’re doing when you become emotional, i.e. angry, sad, frustrated, overjoyed, etc. This article outlines how to use your own body and feelings as teaching tools for healthy emotional coping. Read full article here.

Usually the feeling of guilt is an unpleasant one; a heavy one. In this new study,  researcher Amrisha Vaish, of the University of Virginia, finds that the beginning stages of guilt seem to develop around the age of three. Why is this significant? Vaish views the development of guilt as an opportunity for children to learn to make amends, and better foster social relationships. Read full article here.

There are too many factors to count that lead to a child growing into a productive adult with a “good” job. According to Jenny Anderson, letting children play more is a key factor. Playing leads to self discovery and problem solving and, “helping kids play more ‘will equip them to be relevant to the workplace and to society,’ said John Goodwin, CEO of the Lego Foundation and the former chief financial officer for The Lego Group.” Read full article here.

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April is Child Abuse Prevention Month

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· April 11, 2018 
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As child clinicians we will become involved in many cases of abuse and neglect. A report of child abuse is made every 10 seconds. 3.6 million reports of child abuse, covering 6.6 million children, are made annually. Four to five children die daily from abuse and neglect. At least 80% of abused and neglected children will meet criteria for one or more psychological disorders at age 21. Up to two-thirds of people in treatment for substance abuse report a history of neglect or abuse. Incarceration rates for men and women who have been abused are substantially higher than the general population.

Child therapists are in a unique position as we often become intimately involved with victims of neglect and abuse as providers, reporters of the abuse, and sometimes as expert witnesses. To be successful with this population, child therapists must have ongoing training and support. Anyone working with abused and neglected children should seek out some form of supervision. More experienced clinicians may choose a peer supervision group which can not only offer clinical guidance, but emotional support as well. Most of us are much more comfortable in our roles as clinicians than expert witnesses. However, being an expert witness doesn’t have to be intimidating and can be a very important opportunity to serve a client. Here is a great list of do’s and dont’s if called on to be an expert witness: 25 Tips for Expert Witnesses.

Self-care is essential for clinicians working with victims of abuse. Vicarious traumatization is a significant risk and can lead to burnout. “Therapist burnout” can be manifested as reduced compassion, a loss of caring and empathy, emotional exhaustion, and not feeling competent. The Society of Psychotherapy offers some excellent insights into recognizing burnout and strategies for self-care.

We recommend that anyone doing therapy with children become a member of The Association for Play Therapy (A4PT), and take advantage of the training opportunities at the national and state conferences. A4PT publications include Play Therapy Magazine and The International Journal of Play Therapy. Online resources are also available to members. Advanced training is available from TF-CBT, which offers a certification in Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. TF-CBT is listed as an evidence-based therapy on SAMHSA.GOV.

Of course, there is a treasure trove of resources available on the internet. A good place to start is the 2018 Prevention Resource Guide from the US Dept of Health and Human Services. Other helpful online resources include Prevent Child Abuse, ASPCC, and the Joyful Heart Foundation. ChildTherapyToys.com also offers a wide variety of resources to clinicians working with children and teens.

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August Play Therapy Wrap-Up

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· September 1, 2017 
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“Men should learn to live with the same seriousness with which children play.” – Nietzsche (philosopher, writer)

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Netflix has released an original show about teen suicide.  13 Reasons Why is about a teen girl who commits suicide and how she choose to share her decision with her peers and family. The show has been praised and criticized for it’s portrayal and highlighting of the tragic issue of teen suicide. If you have a child/teen who has seen, is watching, or is interested in watching the show, Jennifer Taylor has some tips on how to put the fictional show in perspective and discuss with them the key points of the story. Read Jennifer’s full article here!

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Racial tensions in America are high as opposing movements are vying to be heard. It is so important to discuss these matters with your children so they understand what racism is, and how to cope with it. According to Erlanger Turner, Ph.D., children often model adult behaviors, so it is also important to understand your own feelings on the issue of racism, and present ways to cope with disappointment or anger.  Read the full article here!

Adults are no strangers to stress. we face stressors and challenges everyday, and hopefully, we know how to cope and combat that stress. Children also experience stress, but it may manifest itself in as a physical affliction rather than emotional distress. Stress in children is often misinterpreted as illness or bad behavior.  The Psychology Foundation of Canada has some tips and signs to help you identify when a child is stressed. Read the full article here!

As with any publicized violent or traumatic events, it is important to discuss with your children what it means and why it happened. The events in Charlottsville, VA. have sparked many concerns and discussions. LA Times reporter Sonali Kohli discusses tips from professionals about how to broach these difficult topics with your children, and why it is important to do so.  Read full article here!

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The Parents’ Guide to Discussing ’13 Reasons Why’ With Your Child by Jennifer Taylor

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· August 24, 2017 
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 Netflix launched a new show at the end of March 2017 called ’13 Reasons Why” that has drawn a lot of buzz in therapy circles and parenting groups.

Like most popular culture, it succeeds at keeping you in suspense enough to watch multiple episodes in a row. In fact, your teens are probably staying up late watching it now (if they haven’t already).

Premise of ’13 Reasons Why’

According to Netflix, the premise of the show is

“After a teenage girls perplexing suicide, a classmate receives a series of tapes that unravel the mystery of her tragic choice.”

So, basically a girl (Hannah) commits suicide but instead of leaving a note, she leaves a series of tape recordings explaining how the other kids at her school contributed to her decision to take her life.

Each of them gets a piece of the responsibility or blame. The show combines snippets of Hannah’s life prior to the suicide with interactions of the remaining students afterwards told from the point of view of her “friend” Clay.

**Possible Spoiler Alert

Criticism of ’13 Reasons Why’

As you might guess, this show has elements that make some parents uncomfortable.  Like most high schools around the country, this school has issues that parents don’t always like seen displayed so graphically.

Among the concerns are:

  • Underage alcohol use & binge drinking
  • Marijuana Use
  • Profanity
  • Sexual Content and Language
  • Homosexuality
  • Sneaking/Lying
  • Violence
  • Bullying
  • Rape
  • AND the big one: the suicide scene

Examples:

The show opens with a typical house party with kids drinking alcohol (one of many alcohol scenes). Later in the show, a girl is raped while passed out from drinking too much. Those who know about it do nothing.

One main character is frequently smoking weed from a bong and is often high at school.

Another group of kids come to the school costume contest dressed in scuba gear and call themselves “muff divers.”

In one scene, characters refer to Hannah has being “DTF” – which for my friends who have not had the guilty pleasure of watching MTV’s Jersey Shore shenanigans means “Down to F@ck”

And don’t forget, there is the rape and then it specifically shows Hannah’s suicide.

Cautions Against “13 Reasons Why’ From Experts

Despite the array of Tweets and the press that says that this show brings positive attention to the topic of suicide, experts are not convinced.  In fact, many of the agencies or foundations that focus on depression, mental health and suicide are concerned that this show sends the wrong message about suicide.

Not The Right Way To Handle Suicide Coverage

This article explains how the show violates nearly all of the recommendations about media coverage for suicide from ReportingOnSuicide.org.  These recommendations include NOT sensationalizing the suicide, NOT talking about the suicide note, AND not describing (or showing in graphic detail) the suicide method.  ’13 Reasons Why’ gets it wrong on all counts.

Not An Accurate Depiction of Mental Health

Moreover, the show fails to address depression or mental health/illness in any significant way. Among the ’13 Reasons’ is not a history of mental health or depression (the most common risk factor in completed suicides). This is especially disappointing given that the executive producer, Selena Gomez, has been quite vocal about her own struggles with anxiety and depression.

Not Helpful For Perpetuating Survivor’s Guilt

Another big complaint is that it perpetuates the belief that the other students are to BLAME for Hannah’s suicide.  While, it does an “okay” job of discussing the concept of survivors guilt, the students involved are mostly more concerned about keeping the story a secret and avoiding any consequences or repercussions.

Can Be A Trigger For People With Mental Health or Trauma

Due to the content, the discussions and images have reportedly been a negative trigger for some people who watch the show.  This is not to say that people who watch ’13 Reasons Why’ will take their life; but more that it can trigger additional feelings of depression, loneliness and hopelessness.

Reasons Why You Might Want To Watch It

This show has prompted a lot of discussion among my therapist friends about the value of watching the show.  There’s really only two main reasons that are cited:

  1. It is helpful to be “in the know” about things that are popular with teens. (That’s the reason that I watched it)
  2. The show can be a prompt for deep and meaningful discussions between therapists and clients and between children and parents.  *Note: I said it CAN BE.  In the actual show, teens and parents failed to have any significant positive discussions about Hannah’s death or the aftermath.But in real life, there have been meaningful discussions about it.

’13 Reasons Why’ Discussion Questions

My recommendation is that if your child is remotely interested in this show, that you watch it with your child.

Really, together. On the same couch at the same time! Then spend some time talking about the key points in each episode.  Because this show is based on Jay Asher’s book of the same name, there are dozens of book club lists with discussion questions available if you look for them.

The Jed Foundation has also released this great list of talking points. 

What Therapists Discuss

If you want discussion questions specifically used by child counselors, you can borrow some of the ones that came up in our discussion board.  Included are:

  1. What impact does Hannah’s suicide have on her parents, the school and her classmates?
  2. Why do you think none of the students discussed the tapes with their parents?
  3. What is the difference between shame and guilt? Which characters feel guilty for their actions and which are ashamed?
  4. What might have happened if Hannah had responded differently to Tyler in the very beginning-could there have been a different butterfly effect?
  5. What could Courtney have done differently or how could she have handled the situation differently rather than throw Hannah under the bus?
  6. Does Hannah’s use of the tapes create risks for additional suicides? How do her actions affect the lives of the people on the tapes?
  7. How does keeping a secret affect people? How do the characters change when they start to talk about or reveal their secrets?
  8. How does the school counselor let the students down? What can you do if an adult doesn’t do their job well or isn’t helpful?
  9. Who can you go to for support when you are stressed? What it is about that person/people that is the most helpful?
  10. Have you ever thought about hurting yourself or taking your life?

AND BONUS – My Favorite Discussion Question of All Time

’13 Reasons Why’ is basically an updated version of one of my most memorable group activities from my Bachelor’s program at the University of West Florida.  I vividly remember being asked to complete “The Drawbridge Exercise” and subsequently being labeled as “oppositional” due to my response.

’13 Reasons Why’ & The Drawbridge Exercise

The Drawbridge exercise tells a story about a woman who is told by her jealous husband not to leave the gates of a castle or she will be “severely punished.’ Shockingly, she leaves.  And, of all places, goes to visit a lover.  On her way back, a gateman is waiting and says if she attempts to cross the bridge, she will be killed. She then returns to the lover for help and he refuses.  She asks several other characters for help and all refuse.  Receiving no help, she returns to the bridge and is killed by the gateman.

The Question is “Who Is To Blame?”

In class, our group was then instructed to assign levels of responsibility for her murder to all of the people in the story that refused to help her, the husband that ordered the murder and the gateman himself.  You are to rank them from 1-6 in order of “most responsible” to “least responsible.”

And that is  a great discussion question for the cast members of  ’13 Reasons Why.’

Who is the most responsible or least responsible for Hannah’s death? Can you rank the characters in order of blame? Are any of them at fault? 

Now, obviously, there is a HUGE difference between homicide and suicide.  I think we can all find it easier to assign blame in a murder.

Nevertheless, the concept that there is someone to BLAME is an ethical question brought up in the show.  In ’13 Reasons Why’ the characters struggle with feeling like  ‘we are all responsible for Hannah’s death” and that “Hannah made the decision to take her life and she is the one to blame.”

It is basically a new age version of “The Drawbridge Exercise.”  And it is an interesting discussion about assigning blame or responsibility for tragedy.

But, back to the drawbridge…

Wondering What I Said?

Remember…I was 19 years old and thought the world was simple.

I said, “The only person responsible for the woman’s death is the gateman.  He is number 1 through 6. Everyone else is zero.”  

My instructor did not like that.  He thought I wasn’t taking the discussion seriously. I was labeled oppositional.

Mental health experts will also disagree with a discussion question that assigns blame to survivors for a suicide.  But, I think it is a good way to bring about a discussion about regrets.   In this YOLO / NO REGRETS world that high schoolers are in, it might be nice to talk about how your actions have consequences, even if you didn’t have bad intentions.

Final Thoughts

Now that I am not 19 (thankfully), I see more gray areas than I did in my college Social Justice class. In therapy there are these things called “duty to warn” and “duty to protect” that hold me responsible for failure to act in cases of potential suicide or homicide or abuse/neglect.

But more than that, I see both sides.  Our actions do have consequences.  Too often we fail to see how we influence others (in both positive and negative ways).  We are ultimately responsible for our own choices, but know this….

HOPELESSNESS is the biggest predictor of suicide.  Without assigning blame, make an effort to do what you can to prevent hopelessness in those around you.

*Not sure when take a suicide threat seriously-read more here. 

See more from Jennifer Taylor here: Jennifer Taylor Play Therapy.

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BIBLIOTHERAPY

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· September 6, 2016 
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Bibliotherapy is a fancy way of saying it’s OK to use books in therapy.  Bibliotherapy is the use of literature to bring about a therapeutic interaction between the adult and the child.  The term originated in 1916 in an article in The Atlantic Monthly. Samuel Crothers suggested using books in hospitals to help patients solve problems and develop insight. There is a very powerful dynamic that takes place when we sit next to a child and read a book. There are thousands of self-help books written for children.  When we sit next to the child and read them the book it becomes a catalyst to discuss their challenges, identify strategies, and then role play and practice those strategies. Books can be sent home with the child, with specific instructions to read them with the parent and bring them back next week.

 

One of the more popular and enduring series of self-help books for children are from Parenting Press. The Children’s Problem Solving Series contains titles such as “I Want It,” My Name is Not Dummy,” and “Mommy Don’t Go.”  The Dealing With Feelings Series contains titles such as I’m Frustrated,” I’m Furious,” and “I’m Scared.” A nice feature of these books is that they are interactive. Children get to pick different behaviors or strategies to challenges presented in the stories. The reader then goes to the section of the book where that strategy is tried and together, reader and child, discover how that affects the outcome.  It is recommended that therapist and child role play and practice the strategies they choose whenever possible. The child should also be asked to explain the strategy to the parent and the parent can be loaned the book to read it to the child during the week.books

 

Other books that might be useful:

A Boy and A Bear: The Children’s Relaxation Book, by Lori Lite, A CD with this and two other stories is also available: Indigo Dreams CD.  The child and parent can then listen to the stories together. This story is a nice one to read, or listen to, at night just before going to sleep. From Head to Toe, by Eric Carle, is a picture book that can be used to practice deep muscle relaxation. As you go through the book with the child, practice the stretches along with deep breathing. Don’t Feed the Worry Bug (& Wince the Worry Monster) is a nice story to read with children who have generalized anxiety.
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Childtherapytoys.com carries a wide selection of books for children.  Here are some of the books we carry, organized by subject.

 

About Therapy – For Kids

A Child’s First Book About Play Therapy by Marc Nemiroff, Ph.D. and Jane Annunziata, Psy.D.

My Listening Friend: A Story About the Benefits of Counseling Book by P.J. Michaels

 

Abuse, Neglect & Domestic Violence

It’s My Body: A Book to Teach Young Children How to Resist Uncomfortable Touch by Lory Freeman

Something Happened and I’m Scared to Tell: A Book for Young Victims of Abuse by Patricia Kehoe, Ph.D.

Loving Touches: A Book for Children about Positive Caring Kinds of Touching by Lory Freeman

Something Is Wrong at My House by Diane Davis

Mi Cuerpo es MIO (It’s MY Body) by Lory Freeman

Algo Paso y Me Da Miedo Decirlo (Something Happened and I’m Scared to Tell) by Patricia Kehoe, Ph.D.

El Problema con Los Secretos (The Trouble with Secrets) by Karen Johnsen

Algo Anda Mal en Mi Casa (Something Is Wrong at my House) by Diane Davis

The Trouble with Secrets by Karen Johnsen

A Terrible Thing Happened: A story for children who have witnessed violence or trauma by Margaret M. Holmes

Reena’s Bollywood Dream: A Story about Sexual Abuse by Jewel Kats

Annabelle’s Secret: A Story about Sexual Abuse by Amy Barth

I Can Play It Safe by Alison Feigh

Will the Courageous: A Story about Sexual Abuse

Hannah Without a Home by Patti Hall, LCSW, and Shelia Devine, MIM

My Body Is Mine, My Feelings Are Mine by Susan Hoke, LCSW, ACSW

 

Adolescence

ADHD: A Teenager’s Guide by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

Mad: Hot to Deal with Anger and Get Respect by James Crist, Ph.D.

How to Talk to an Autistic Kid by Daniel Stefanski

Why Are You So Scared? A Child’s Book About Parents with PTSD by Beth Andrews

When No One Understand by Brad Sachs, Ph.D.

Be the Boss of Your Pain: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P, M.P.H.

Be the Boss of Your Stress: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P, M.P.H.

How to Take the GRRRR Out of Anger by Elizabeth Verdick and Majorie Lisovskis

The Inside Story on Teen Girls: Experts Answer Teens’ Questions by Karen Zager, Alice Rubenstein

Life Lists for Teens: Tips, Steps, Hints, and How-Tos for Growing Up, Getting Along, Learning and Having Fun by Pamela Espeland

When Nothing Matters Anymore: A Survival Guide for Depressed Teens by Bev Cobain, R.N., C.

The Courage to Be Yourself: True Stories by Teens About Cliques, Conflicts, and Overcoming Peer Pressure edited by Al Desetta, M.A., and Educators for Social Responsibility

Too Stressed to Think? A Teen Guide to Staying the Same When Life Makes You Crazy by Annie Fox, M.Ed., and Ruth Kirschner

The Power to Prevent Suicide (for teens, updated edition) by Richard E. Nelson, Ph.D, and Judith C. Galas

GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens (Revised & Updated Second Edition) by Kelly Huegel

My Anxious Mind: A Teen’s Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic by Michael Tompkins and Katherine Martinez

The Mouse, the Monster, and Me – Assertiveness for Young People (Curb Bullying) by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

 

ADD/ADHD and Learning Differences

ADHD: A Teenager’s Guide by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

All Dogs Have ADHD by Kathy Hoopmann

Annie’s Plan: Taking Charge of Schoolwork and Homework by Jeanne Kraus

Cory Stories: A Kids Book About Living with ADHD by Jeanne Kraus

Ditzabled Princess: A Comical Diary by Jewel Kats

Eukee the Jumpy Elephant by Clifford L. Corman, M.D.

I Just Want to Do It My Way! My Story About Staying on Task by Julia Cook

It’s Hard To Be A Verb! (a book about focusing) by Julia Cook

Learning to Slow Down and Pay Attention by Kathleen G. Nadeau, Ph.D., and Ellen B. Dixon, Ph.D.

Max Pays Attention by Barbara Gibson-Paul, Psy.D.

Me Van A Ayudar: El TDA explicado a los niños by Marc A. Nemiroff, Ph.D., and Jane Annunziata, Psy.D.

My Mouth is a Volcano by Julia Cook

Otto Learns about His Medicine: A Story about Medication for Children with ADHD (third edition) by Matthew Galvin, M.D.

Out of This World: Hey Max… Pay Attention! The Importance of Concentration by Jon Filitti

Out of This World: Max Strives for Success! Victory through Motivation by Jon Filitti

Soda Pop Head (cool down before you fizz!) by Julia Cook

Sometimes I Drive My Mom Crazy (But I Know She’s Crazy About Me) by Lawrence E. Shapiro, Ph.D.

The Asperkid’s Launch Pad: Home Design to Empower Everyday Superheroes by Jennifer Cook O’Toole

The Don’t Give Up Kid by Jeanne Gehret

The Princess and the Ruby: An Autism Fairy Tale by Jewel Kats

The Rabbit Who Lost His Hop by Marica Shoshana Nass

The Survival Guide for Kids with ADD or ADHD by John F. Taylor, Ph.D.

This Morning Sam Went to Mars: A Book about Paying Attention by Nancy Carlson

Understanding Sam and Asperger Syndrome by Clarabelle van Niekerk and Liezl Venter

What is it Like to Be Me? A Book About a Boy with Asperger’s Syndrome by Alenka Klemenec

Can I Tell You About Dyslexia? A Guide for Friends, Family and Professionals by Alan M. Hultquist

The Survival Guide for Gifted Kids by Judy Galbraith, M.A.

How to Be Human: Diary of an Autistic Girl by Florida Frenz

Learning to Feel Good and Stay Cool: Emotional Regulation Tools for Kids with AD/HD by Judith M. Glasser, Ph.D., and Kathleen G Nadeau, Ph.D.

Attention Girls: A Guide to Learn All About Your AD/HD by Patricia O. Quinn, M.D.

 

Adoption/Foster Care

All About Adoption by Marc Nemiroff and Jane Annunziata

Finding the Right Spot: When Kids Can’t Live With Their Parents by Janice Levy

Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care by Jennifer Wilgocki, MS, and Marcia Kahn Wright, Ph.D.

Zachary’s New Home: A Story for Foster and Adopted Children by Geraldine M. Blomquisst, M.S.W. and Paul Blomquist

Kids Need to Be Safe: A Book for Children in Foster Care by Julie Nelson

Families Change: A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights by Julie Nelson

Billy Had to Move: A Foster Care Story by Theresa Ann Fraser, CYW, B.A.

Who is in Your Family? A Celebration in Diversity by Susan Bowman

Good for You, Grisha: Teaching Kids Ways to Cope by Karen Westhoven

 

Anger

What to Do When You’re Cranky and Blue by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

Boom the Anger Tamer: An Emotes Book About Anger by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Cloud’s Best Worst Day Ever by Amy Novesky

Cool Down and Work Through Anger by Cheri J. Meiners, M.Ed.

Every Time I Blow My Top I Lose My Head! By Laura Slap-Sheltion, Psy.D., and Lawrence E. Shapiro, Ph.D.

Everything I Do You Blame on Me! By Allyson Aborn, MSW, CSW

Frog’s Breathtaking Speech by Michael Chissick

Hands are Not for Hitting by Martine Agassi, Ph.D.

How to Take the GRRRR Out of Anger by Elizabeth Verdick and Marjorie Lisovskis

Mad: How to Deal with Anger and Get Respect by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

Out of This World: Face to Face with X-35 by Jon Filitti

Soda Pop Head (cool down before you fizz!) by Julia Cook

Sometimes I Like to Fight (But I Don’t Do It Much Anymore) by Lawrence E. Shapiro, Ph.D.

The Penguin Who Lost Her Cool by Marla Sobel

The Very Angry Day That Amy Didn’t Have by Lawerence E. Shapiro

The Very Frustrated Monster by Andi Green

What to do When Your Temper Flares by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.

When You’re MAD and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S. and Shari Steelsmith

Zach Apologizes by William Mulcahy

Zach Get Frustrated by William Mulcahy

Cant Loses His Cool: An Emotes Book About Temper Tantrums by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Cant Pierde Su Calma: Un Libro Emotes Sobre Las Rabietas by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Boom the Anger Tamer: An Emotes Book About Anger by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Learning to Feel Good and Stay Cool: Emotional Regulation Tools for Kids With AD/HD by Judith M. Glasser, Ph.D., and Kathleen G. Nadeau, Ph.D.

I Hate Everything! By Sue Graves

 

Anxiety/Worry/Shyness

A Boy and a Bear: The Children’s Relaxation Book by Lori Lite

Be the Boss of Your Stress: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P., M.P.H.

Blueloon by Julia Cook

Bolsitas raras by Tiziana Bruno Rosa

Bug Makes a Splash by Amy Novesky

Caillou: Day Care by Christine L’Heureux and Gisèle Lègarè

Can I Tell You About Selective Mutism? A Guide For Friends, Family, and Professionals by Maggie Johnson and Alison Wintgens

Celia the Great: Tricks for Being a Happy Kid by Abby Jacobs

Cómo apreciarme by Pat Palmer

Cucho le dice NO al estrés by N. Barceló G. / C. Bordagorry A.

Does This Make Me Beautiful? By Harriet Morse

Don’t Blame Me! Prepare to Excel Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Larry Cole

Don’t Feed the Worry Bug by Andi Green

Frog’s Breathtaking Speech by Michael Chissick

The Monster Who Couldn’t Decide by Andi Green

Full Mouse, Empty Mouse: A Tale of Food and Feelings by Dina Zeckhausen, Ph.D.

Get Out of Your Mind & Into Your Life for Teens by Joseph V. Ciarrochi, Ph.D., Louise Hayes, PH.D., and Ann Baily M.A.

Good for You, Grisha: Teaching Kids Ways to Cope by Karen Westhoven

How to Feel Good: 20 Things Teens Can Do by Tricia Mangan

Joi’s Cyber-Coaster Adventure: An Emotes Book About Positive Thinking by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Liking Myself (3rd Edition) by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

Mideos y Manias by Lluís Farré

My Anxious Mind: A Teen’s Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic by Michael Tompkins and Katherine Martinez

Nuevas téchnicas de relajación para niños y adolescents by Silvina Hopkins

Please Explain “Anxiety” to Me! : Simple Biology and Solutions for Children and Parents by Laurie Zelinger, Ph.D. and Jordan Zelinger

Pressure-True Stories by Teens About Stress edited by Al Desetta

Scary Night Visitors: A Story for Children with Bedtime Fears by Irene Wineman and Paul Marcus, Ph.D.

Sometimes I Don’t Like to Talk (But Sometimes I Can’t Keep Quiet) by Jessica Lamb-Shapiro

Sometimes I Worry Too Much (But Now I Know How To Stop) by Dawn A. Huebner, Ph.D.

Sometimes I’m Scared by Jane Annunziata, Psy.D., and Marc Nemiroff, Ph.D.

Stress Can Really Get On Your Nerves by Trevor Romain and Elizabeth Verdick

The Bear Who Lost His Sleep by Jennifer Lamb-Shapiro

The Chimp Who Lost Her Chatter by Lawrence E. Shapiro

The Dragon Who Pulled Her Scales by William Michael Davidson

The Hyena Who Lost Her Laugh by Jennifer Lamb-Shapiro

The Lion Who Lost His Roar by Marcia Shoshana Nass

The Lonely Little Monster by Andi Green

The Monster in the Bubble by Andi Green

The Mouse the Monster and Me– Assertiveness for Young People by Pat Palmer

The Nose That Didn’t Fit by Andi Green

The Panicosaurus by K.I. Al-Ghani

Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens by Marci G. Fox Ph.D. and Leslie Sokol Ph.D.

Tommy Starts Something Big: Giving Cuddles and Kindness by Chuck Gaidica and Kris Yankee

What to Do When You Dread Your Bed by Dawn Huebner

What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Negativity by Dawn Huebner

What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Huebner

What to Do When You’re Scared & Worried: A Guide for Kids by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD by Dawn Huebner

When Lizzy Was Afraid of Trying New Things by Inger Maier, Ph.D.

When No One Understands by Brad Sachs, Ph.D.

Who Feels Scared? By Sue Graves

Why Are You So Scared? A Child’s Book About Parents with PTSD by Beth Andrews

Why Would Someone Want to Die? By Rebecca C. Schmidt

Wilma Jean the Worry Machine by Julia Cook

Some Days Are Lonely by Young-Ah Kim

Big Ernie’s New Home: A Story for Children Who Are Moving by Teresa and Whitney Martin

Jumpi Goes to Camp: An Emotes Book About Being Afraid by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Super and Perfecto: An Emotes Book About Confidence by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Good Night Giants by Heinz Janisch

New Kid, New Scene: A Guide to Moving and Switching Schools by Debbie Glassner, Ph.D., and Emily Schneck

Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

Can I tell you about OCD? A Guide for Friends, Family and Professionals by Amita Jassi

Oh No, School! By Hae-Kyung Chang

Drain and the Mystery of Sleep by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Jumpi Va a Campar: Un Libro Emotes Sobre Tener Miedo by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

A Happy Hat by Cecil Kim

School Made Easier: A Kid’s Guide to Study Strategies & Anxiety Busting Tools by Wendy L. Moss

 

Autism/PDD

All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome by Kathy Hoopmann

How to Talk to an Autistic Kid by Daniel Stefanski

I Just Want to Do It My Way! My Story About Staying on Task by Julia Cook

Keisha’s Doors: An Autism Story/Las Puerton de Keisha: Book One by Marvie Ellis

Tacos Anyone? / Alguien quiere tacos? By Marvie Ellis

The Asperkid’s Launch Pad: Home Design to Empower Everyday Superheroes by Jennifer Cook O’Toole

The Princess and the Ruby: An Autism Fairy Tale by Jewel Kats

The Survival Guide for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (And Their Parents) by Elizabeth Verdick and Elizabeth Reeve, M.D.

Understanding Sam and Asperger Syndrome Clarabelle van Niekerk and Liezl Venter

What Is It Like to Be Me? A Book about a Boy with Asperger’s Syndrome by Alenka Klemen

How to Be Human: Diary of an Autistic Girl by Florida Frez

 

Behavior Management

Imagine That! Imagery Stories to Help Young People Learn to Improve Their Behavioral Self-Control by Janis L. Silverman, M.A.

The Survival Guide for Kids with Behavior Challenges by Tom McIntyre, Ph.D.

I Can’t Do Anything by Thierry Robberecht

 

Bullying, Teasing, Peer Conflict, Friendship

Becoming Someone’s Hero: A Book for the Bystanders of Bullying by Sandy Ragona

Browser the Moues and His Internet Adventures by Barbara C. Trolley, Ph.D., CRC, Constance Hanel, M.S.Ed, and Kinda L. Shields, M.S.Ed

Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Romain

But Why Can’t I? By Sue Graves

Bystander Power: Now with Anti-Bulling Action by Phyllis Kaufman Goodstein and Elizabeth Verdick

Caillou: Play With Me! By Christine L’Heureux

Cliques Just Don’t Make Cents by Julia Cook

Crow by Leo Timmers

Dare! By Erin Frankel

Don’t Squeal Unless It’s A Big Deal: A Tale of Tattletales by Jeanie Franz Ransom, M.A., and Jackie Ubanovic

Girl Grudges: Learning How to Forgive and Live by Cheryl Dellasega, Ph.D. and Shileste Overton Morris, B.A.

How Not to be a Bully Target by Terry Centrone

How To Be A Bully! …Not! By Marcia Nass, MS

How to Talk to an Autistic Kid by Daniel Stefanski

I Am Stumped by Lisa Rivard

If You’re Bothered…and you know it by Tricia Murin

It Will Get Better: Finding Your Way Through Teen Issues by Melinda Hutchings

Kicky the Mean Chick Learns Her Lesson & Other Kicky Tales by Erika Karres

Mookey the Monkey Gets Over Being Teased by Heather Lonczak

My Best Friend is Me! By Beth Ann Marcozzi

My Name is Not Dummy by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

The Lonely Little Monster by Andi Green

Not Fair, Won’t Share by Sue Graves

Out of This World: Tiglos vs Secca Ma by John Filitti

Pressure – True Stories by Teens About Stress edited by Al Desetta

Ricky Sticky Fingers by Julia Cook

The Nose that Didn’t Fit by Andi Green

Soda Pop Head (cool down before you fizz!) by Julia Cook

Tease Monster: A Book about Teasing vs. Bullying by Julia Cook

Teddy Bear Princess: A Story About Sharing and Caring by Jewel Kats

The Hero in Me by Susan Fitzsimonds

The Juice Box Bully: Empowering Kids to Stand Up for Others by Bob Sornson and Maria Dismondy

The Mouse, The Monster, and Me – Assertiveness for Young People by Pat Palmer

The Penguin Who Lost Her Cool by Marla Sobel

Tough! By Erin Frankel

Vicious – True Stories by Teens About Bullying edited by Hope Vanderberg

Weird! By Erin Frankel

Words Are Not for Hurting/Las palabras no son para lastimar by Elizabeth Verdick

Zach Apologizes by William Mulcahy

Zach Gets Frustrated by William Mulcahy

Don’t Call Me A Tattletale! By Kimberly Koskos

El Ratón, El Monstruo y Yo: Conducta asertiva para los jóvenes by Pat Palmer, Ed.D

Eli’s Lie-O-Meter by Sandra Levins

Abash and the Cyber-Bully: An Emotes Book About Bullying by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Imp and the Fib Invasion: An Emotes Book About Telling the Truth by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Joi’s Cyber-Coaster Adventure: An Emotes Book About Positive Thinking by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Circle of Three: Enough Friendship to Go Around? By Elizabeth Brokamp

Stand Up and Speak Up! By Bob Sornson

Sally Sore Loser: A Story About Winning & Losing by Frank J. Sileo

New Kid, New Scene: A Guide to Moving and Switching Schools by Debbie Glassner, Ph.D.

 

Comics/Out of This World Guidance Series

Out of This World: Hey Max…Pay Attention! The Importance of Concentration by John Filitti

Out of This World: Max Strives for Success! Victory Through Motivation by John Filitti

Out of This World: Face to Face with X-35 by John Filitti

Out of This World: Tiglos vs Secca Ma by John Filitti

 

Conflict Resolution

The Kids’ Guide to Working Out Conflicts: How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along by Naomi Drew, M.A.

The Courage To Be Yourself: True Stories by Teens About Cliques, Conflicts, and Overcoming Peer Pressure edited by Al Desetta

Don’t Call Me a Tattletale by Kimberly Koskos

Circle of Three: Enough Friendship to Go Around? By Elizabeth Brokamp

 

Cyber/Internet Safety

Abash and the Cyber-Bully: An Emotes Book About Bullying by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Joi’s Cyber-Coaster Adventure: An Emotes Book About Positive Thinking by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Browser the Mouse and His Internet Adventure by Constance Hanel, Ph.D., C.R.C., Linda Shields, M.S.Ed, and Barbara Trolley, M.S.Ed

 

Depression/Sadness/Negative Thinking

What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Negativity by Dawn Huebner

What To Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD by Dawn Huebner

Jenny Is Scared! When Sad Things Happen in the World by Carol Shuman

What to Do When You’re Scared & Worried: A Guide for Kids by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

When Nothing Matters Anymore: A Survival Guide for Depressed Teens by Bev Cobain, R.N., C.

What Are You So Sad? A Child’s Book About Parental Depression by Beth Andrews

Sometimes I Get Sad (But Now I Know What Makes Me Happy) by Jane Ratcliffe

What To Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.

Full Mouse, Empty Mouse: A Tale of Food and Feelings by Dina Zeckhausen, Ph.D.

The Power to Prevent Suicide (for teens, updated edition) by Richard E. Nelson, Ph.D., and Judith C. Galas

Why Would Someone Want to Die? By Rebecca C. Schmidt

Liking Myself (3rd Edition) by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

I’m Not Happy by Sue Graves

Who Feels Scared by Sue Graves

Feeling Sad by Sarah Verroken

Does This Make Me Beautiful? By Harriet Morse

Don’t Blame Me! Prepare to Excel Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Larry Cole

Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness: Three Rules for a Happier Life by Carol McCloud

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? : A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids by Carol McCloud

Tommy Starts Something Big: Giving Cuddles and Kindness by Chuck Gaidica

What Color is Your Heart? By Linda Reau

Why Are You So Scared? A Book Bout Parents with PTSD by Beth Andrews

Blueloon by Julia Cook

I Am Stumped! By Lisa Rivard

Has Llenado una Cubeta Hoy? Una Gui a Diaria de Felicidad para Niños by Carol McCloud

Cloud’s Best Worst Day Ever by Amy Novesky

Get Out of Your Mind & Into Your Life for Teens by Joseph V. Ciarrochi, Ph.D., Louise Hayes, Ph.D., and Ann Bailey, M.A.

When No One Understands by Brad Sachs, Ph.D.

Hannah Without A Home by Patti Hall, LCSE, and Sheila Devine, MIM

What Does Dead Mean? A Book for Young Children to Help Explain Death & Dying by Caroline Jay and Jenni Thomas

el PEOR dia de TODA mi vida/The Worst Day of My Life EVER by Julia Cook

The Grouchies (Chase Away a Grumpy Mood) by Debbie Wagenbach

Bubba Under Pressure: An Emotes Book About Happiness by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Bubba Bajo Presion: Un Libro Emotes Sobre La Alegria y La Presion by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Joi’s Cyber Coaster Adventure: An Emotes Book About Positive Thinking by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

What to Do When It’s Not Fair by Jacqueline B. Toner, Ph.D., and Claire A. B. Freeland, Ph.D.

A Happy Hat by Cecil Kim

What to Do When You’re Cranky and Blue by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

Shy Spaghetti and Excited Eggs: A Kid’s Menu of Feelings by Marc Nemiroff and Jane Annunziata

Ick and the Emotastone: An Emotes Book About Accepting Differences by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Celia the Great: Tricks for Being a Happy Kid by Abby Jacobs

Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

 

Disabilities

The Don’t Give Up Kid by Jeanne Gehret, M.A.

Los latidos de Yago by Conchita Miranda

What Do You Use to Help Your Body? By Jewel Kats

Cinderella’s Magical Wheelchair by Jewel Kats

Ditzabled Princess: A Comical Diary by Jewel Kats

 

Divorce

Ginny Morris and Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Mary Collins Gallagher, M.A., L.P.C.

My Parents Are Divorced Too: A Book for Kids by Kids (2nd Edition) by Melanie, Annie, and Steven Ford, as told to Jan Blackstone-Ford

What Can I Do? A Book for Children of Divorce by Danielle Lowry

Was It the Chocolate Pudding? A Story for Little Kids About Divorce by Sandra Levins

Families Change: A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights by Julie Nelson

Divorced Together for the Sake of the Children by Kristi Schwartz

Sending Love, My Different-Functional Family by Lori Hilliard

I Have Two Homes by Marian De Smet

My Life Turned Upside Down, But I Turned It Rightside Up by Mary Blitzer Field and Hennie Shore

 

Eating Disorders

Full Mouse, Empty Mouse: A Tale of Food and Feeling by Dina Zeckhausen, Ph.D.

My Big Fat Secret: How Jenna Takes Control of Her Emotions & Eating by Lynn R. Schechter

How To Be Comfortable in Your Own Feathers by Julia Cook

 

Enuresis/Encopresis

Clouds and Clocks: A Story for Children Who Soil by Matthew Galvin, M.D.

Sammy the Elephant and Mr. Camel: A Story to Help Children Overcome Bedwetting While Discovering Self-Appreciation (2nd Edition) by Joyce C. Mills, Ph.D., and Richard Crowley, Ph.D.

Sammy el Elefante y el Senor Camello (A story to help children overcome bedwetting by Joyce C. Mills, Ph.D., and Richard Crowley, Ph.D.

 

Feelings

Abash and the Cyber-Bully: An Emotes Book About Bullying by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Abash y el Peleon-Cibernetico: Un Libro Emotes Sobre la Intimidacion de Peleones Ciberneticos by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Así me siento yo by Janan Cain

Boom the Anger Tamer: An Emotes Book About Anger by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Bubba Bajo Presion: Un Libro Emotes Sobre La Alegria y La Presion by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Bubba Under Pressure: An Emotes Book About Happiness by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Cant Loses His Cool: An Emotes Book About Temper Tantrums by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Cant Pierde Su Calma: Un Libro Emotes Sobre Las Rabietas

Como apreciarme by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

Don’t Feed the Worry Bug by Andi Green

Double-Dip Feelings: Stories to Help Children Understand Emotions, Second Edition by Barbara Cain

Drain and the Mystery of Sleep by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Drain y el Misterio del Sueno: Un Libro Emotes Sobre Tener Habitos Saludables by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Feeling Better: A Kid’s Book About Therapy by Rachel Rashkin

Feeling Sad by Sarah Verroken

Fill a Bucket: A Guide to Daily Happiness for young Children by Carol McCloud

The Monster Who Couldn’t Decide by Andi Green

Full Mouse, Empty Mouse: A Tale of Food and Feelings by Dina Zeckhausen, Ph.D>

Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness: Three Rules for a Happier Life by Carol McCloud

Have You Filled A Bucket Today? : A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids by Carol McCloud

How to Feel Good: 20 Things Teens Can Do by Tricia Mangan

I’m Excited by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I’m Frustrated by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I’m Furious by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I’m Mad by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I’m Not Happy by Sue Graves

I’m Proud by Elizabeth Crary

I’m Scared by Elizabeth Crary

Ick and The Emotastone: An Emotes Book About Accepting Differences by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Jenny Is Scared! When Sad Things Happen in the World by Carol Shuman

Joi’s Cyber-Coaster Adventure an Emotes Book about Positive Thinking by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Jumpi Goes to Camp: An Emotes Book About Being Afraid by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Jumpi Va a Campar: Un Libro Emotes Sobre Tener Miedo by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Liking Myself (3rd Edition) by Pat Palmer Ed.D.

Mixy’s Quest: An Emotes Book About Confusion by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

My Body Is Mine, My Feelings Are Mine by Susan Hoke, LCSW, ACSW

The Lonely Little Monster by Andi Green

Onionhead® Children’s A-Z Dictionary of 52 Emotions

Proud of Our Feelings by Lindsay Leghorn

The Nose That Didn’t Fit by Andi Green

The Monster in the Bubble by Andi Green

The Lion Who Lost His Roar by Marcia Shoshana Nass

The Monster Who Couldn’t Decide by Andi Green

The Penguin Who Lost Her Cool by Marla Sobel

The Very Frustrated Monster by Andi Green

The Way I Act by James Metzger

The Way I Feel by Janan Cain

Understand and Care by Cheri J. Meiners, Ed.D.

What Color is Your Heart? By Linda Reau

What to do When Your Temper Flares by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.

When You’re HAPPY and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

When You’re MAD and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

When You’re SHY and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

When You’re SILLY and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

Who Feels Scared? by Sue Graves

Don’t Feed the WorryBug by Andi Graves

Yawni and the Perspecto-Goggles: An Emotes Book About Boredom by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Shy Spaghetti and Excited Eggs: A Kid’s Menu of Feelings by Marc Nemiroff and Jane Annunziata

My Big Fat Secrets: How Jenna Takes Control of Her Emotions & Eating by Lynn R. Schechter

Visiting Feelings by Lauren Rubenstein, J.D., Psy.D.

What to Do When It’s Not Fair by Jacqueline B. Toner, Ph.D., and Claire A.B. Freeland, Ph.D.

Some Days Are Lonely by Young-Ah Kim

A Happy Hat by Cecil Kim

Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

 

Friendship Skills

El Ratón, El Monstruo y Yo: Conducta asertiva para los jóvenes by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

Circle of Three: Enough Friendship to Go Around by Elizabeth Brokamp

Toodles and Teeny: A Story About Friendship by Jill Neimark and Marcella Bakur Weiner

New Kid, New Scene: A Guide to Moving and Switching Schools by Debbie Glasser, Ph.D., and Emily Schenck

Loving Touches: A Book for Children About Positive, Caring Kinds of Touching by Lory Freeman

Teddy Bear Princess: A Story About Sharing and Caring by Jewel Kats

Sally Sore Loser: A Story About Winning & Losing by Frank J. Sileo

Big Ernie’s New Home: A Story for Children Who Are Moving by Teresa and Whitney Martin

A Good Friend: How to Make One, How to Be One by Ron Herron and Val J. Peter

Sometimes I Feel Like I Don’t Have Any Friends (But Not So Much Anymore) by Tracy Zimmerman and Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.

Tommy Starts Something Big: Giving Cuddles and Kindness by Chuck Gaidica and Kris Yankee

Cat’s Not So Perfect Sandcastle illustrations by Hanako Wakiyama

My Best Friend is Me! By Beth Ann Marcozzi

 

Grief and Bereavement

Samantha Jane’s Missing Smile: A Story about Coping with the Loss of a Parent by Julie Kaplow, Ph.D., and Donna Pincus, Ph.D

What On Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies? By Trevor Romain

Why Would Someone Want to Die? By Rebecca C. Schmidt

Good-bye Max by Diane Cantrell

Aractina Aprende a Decir Adios by M. Acuña M/ C. Bordagorry A. / N. Barceló G.

Cuerpo de nube by Ana A. de Eulate

Stella Our Star: Coping with a Loss During Pregnancy by Mandi Kowalik

Someone I Love Died by Suicide by Doreen Cammarata

Honey Bear Died by Jennifer E. Melvin

What Does Dead Mean? A Book for Young Children to Help Explain Death & Dying by Caroline Jay and Jenni Thomas

Ben’s Flying Flowers by Inger Maier

Healing Days: A Guide for Kids Who Have Experienced Trauma by Susan Farber Straus

Kate, The Ghost Dog: Coping With the Death of a Pet by Wayne L. Wilson

Goodbye, Brecken by David Lupton

 

Medical

Be the Boss of Your Pain: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P, M.P.H.

Be the Boss of Your Stress: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P, M.P.H.

You Can Call Me Willy: A Story for Children About AIDS by Joan C. Verniero

Ditzabled Princess: A Comical Diary by Jewel Kats

 

Pre-Adolescence

What to do When Your Temper Flares by Dawn Huebner, Ed.D.

What to do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD by Dawn Huebner, Ed.D.

Be the Boss of Your Pain: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P, M.P.H.

How Not To Be a Bully Target by Terry Centrone

Stress Can Really Get on Your Nerves by Trevor Romain and Elizabeth Verdick

How to Do Homework Without Throwing Up by Trevor Romain

True or False? Tests Stink! By Trevor Romain and Elizabeth Verdick

The Kid’s Guide to Working Out Conflicts: How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along by Naomi Drew, M.A.

Feeling Better: A Kid’s Book About Therapy by Rachel Rashkin, M.S.

See My Pain! 3rd Edition by Susan Bowman, Ed.S., L.P.C., and Kaye Randall, LMSW

Girl Grudges: Learning How to Forgive and Live by Cheryl Dellasega, Ph.D., and Shileste Overton Morris, B.A.

Full Mouse, Empty Mouse: A Tale of Food and Feelings by Dina Zeckhausen, Ph.D.

The Power to Prevent Suicide (for teens, updated edition) by Richard E. Nelson, Ph.D., and Judith C. Galas

Why Would Someone Want to Die? By Rebecca C. Schmidt

What to Do When Good Enough Isn’t Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism by Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D.

The Mouse, The Monster, and Me – Assertiveness for Young People by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

 

Self Injury

A Short Introduction to Understanding and Supporting Children and Young People Who Self-Harm by Carol Fitzpatrick

Stopping the Pain: A Workbook for Teens Who Cut and Self-Injure By Lawrence E Shapiro

See My Pain! 3rd Edition (Youth who self-injure) by Susan Bowman, Ed.S., L.P.C., and Kaye Randall, LMSW

 

Self-Esteem

Always Late Nate (a book about making positive choices) by Nathan Krivitzky

Como apreciarme by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

Does This Make Me Beautiful? By Harriet Morse

Don’t Blame Me! Prepare to Excel Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Larry Cole

Frog’s Breathtaking Speech by Michael Chissick

I Like Myself! By Karen Beaumont

It’s Hard to be A Verb! By Julia Cook

Sometimes I Don’t Like to Talk (But Sometimes I Can’t Keep Quiet) by Jessica Lamb-Shapiro

Sometimes I Drive My Mom Crazy (But I Know She’s Crazy About Me) by Lawrence E. Shapiro

Sometimes I Feel Like I Don’t Have Any Friends (But Not So Much Anymore) by Tracy Zimmerman and Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.

Sometimes I Get Sad (But Now I Know What Makes Me Happy) by Jane Ratcliffe

Sometimes I Like to Fight (But I Don’t Do It Much Anymore) by Lawrence E. Shapiro, Ph.D.

Sometimes I Worry Too Much (But Now I Know How to Stop) by Dawn A. Huebner, Ph.D.

Stick Up For Yourself! Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Pwer and Positive Self-Esteem (revised and updated) by Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D., Lev Raphael, Ph.D., and Pamela Espeland

The Dragon Who Pulled Her Scales by William Michael Davidson

The Hero in Me by Susan Fitzsimonds

Tommy Starts Something Big: Giving Cuddles and Kindness by Chuck Gaidica and Kris Yankee

Lola Goes to Work: A Nine-to-Five Therapy Dog by Marcia Goldman

My Big Fat Secret: How Jenna Takes Control of Her Emotions & Eating by

Don’t Call Me a Tattletale! By Kimberly Koskos

Celia the Great: Tricks for Being a Happy Kid by Abby Jacobs

How To Be Comfortable in Your Own Feathers by Julia Cook

Feel Confident! By Cheri J. Meiners

 

Separation

Mommy Don’t Go by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I’m Lost by Elizabeth Craary, M.S.

 

Social and Emotional Competence Skills

A Boy and a Bear: The Children’s Relaxation Book by Lori Lite

Accept and Value Each Person by Cheri J. Meiners

Be the Boss of Your Stress: Self-Care for Kids by Timothy Culbert, M.D., and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P, M.P.H.

Becoming Someone’s Hero: A Book for the Bystanders of Bullying by Sandy Ragona, M.S.Ed.

Caillou: Day Care by Christine L’Heureux and Gisèle Lègarè

Caillou: Hurry Up! By Joceline Sanschagrin

Caillou: Play With Me! By Christine L’Heureux

Can I Tell You About Selective Mutism? A Guide for Friends, Family, and Professionals by Maggie Johnson and Alsion Wintgens

Cliques Just Don’t Make Cents by Julia Cook

Cucho le dice NO al estrés by N. Barceló G./ C. Bordagorry A.

Does This Make Me Beautiful? By Harriet Morse

Don’t Blame Me! Prepare to Excel Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Larry Cole

Don’t Squeal Unless It’s A Big Deal: A Tale of Tattletales by Jenanie Franz Ransom, MA

el PEOR dia de TODA mi vida/The Worst Day of My Life EVER by Julia Cook

Fill a Bucket: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Young Children by Carol McCloud

Frog’s Breathtaking Speech by Michael Chissick

Good For You, Grisha: Teaching Kids Ways to Cope by Karen Westhoven

Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness: Three Rules for a Happier Life by Carol McCloud

Has Llenado una Cubeta Hoy? Una Gui a Diaria de Felicidad para Niños by Carol McCloud

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? : A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids by Carol McCloud

How to Talk to an Autistic Kid by Daniel Stefanski

I Am Stumped by Lisa Rivard

I Can’t Wait by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I Just Want to Do It My Way! My Story About Staying on Task by Julia Cook

I Want It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I Want to Play by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

I’m Lost by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

Ick and the Emotastone: An Emotes Book About Accepting Differences by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

If You’re Bothered… and you know it by Tricia Murin

It’s Hard to Be A Verb! By Julia Cook

Kicky the Mean Chick Learns Her Lesson & Other Kicky Tales by Erika Karres

Liking Myself (3rd Edition) by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

Listen and Learn by Cheri J. Meiners, M.Ed.

Mad: How to Deal With Anger and Get Respect by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

Mommy Don’t Go by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

My Mouth is a Volcano by Julia Cook

My Name is Not Dummy by Elizabeth Crary, M.S.

Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me: The Top 25 Friendship Problems and How to Solve Them by Michele Borba, Ed.D.

Nuevas téchnicas de relajación para niños y adolescents by Silvina Hopkins

Out of This World: Max Strives for Success! Victory Through Motivation by John Filitti

Out of This World: Face to Face with X-35 by John Filitti

Out of This World: Tiglos vs Secca Ma by John Filitti

Pressure-True Stories by Teens About Stress edited by Al Desetta

Ricky Sticky Fingers by Julia Cook

Sometimes I Don’t Like to Talk (But Sometimes I Can’t Keep Quiet) by Jessica Lamb-Shapiro

Sometimes I Feel Like I Don’t Have Any Friends (But Not So Much Anymore) by Tracy Zimmerman and Lawrence Shapiro, Ph.D.

Sometimes I Get Sad (But Now I Know What Makes Me Happy) by Jane Ratcliffe

Sometimes I Like to Fight (But I Don’t Do It Much Anymore) by Lawrence E. Shapiro, Ph.D.

Stick Up For Yourself~ Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem (revised and updated) by Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D., Lev Raphael, Ph.D., and Pamela Espeland

Teamwork Isn’t My Thing, and I Don’t Like to Share! By Julia Cook

Tease Monster: A Book about Teasing vs. Bullying by Julia Cook

Teddy Bear Princess: A Story About Sharing and Caring by Jewel Kats

The Courage to Be Yourself: True Stories by Teens About Cliques, Conflicts, and Overcoming Peer Pressure edited by Al Desetta, M.A., and Educators for Social Responsibility

The Hero in Me by Susan Fitzsimonds

The Mouse, the Monster, and Me – Assertiveness for Young People (Curb Bullying) by Pat Palmer, Ed.D.

The Princess and the Ruby: An Autism Fairy Tale by Jewel Kats

The Rabbit Who Lost His Hop by Marica Shoshana Nass

The Way I Act by James Metzger

Tommy Starts Something Big: Giving Cuddles and Kindness by Chuck Gaidica and Kris Yankee

Try and Stick with It by Cheri J. Meiners, M.Ed.

Understand and Care by Cheri J. Meiners, M.Ed.

Understanding Sam and Asperger Syndrome by Clarabelle van Niekerk and Liezl Venter

What Color is Your Heart? By Linda Reau

What Do You Use to Help Your Body? By Jewel Kats

What to Do When Good Enough Isn’t Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism by Thomas S. Greenspon, Ph.D.

What to do When Your Temper Flares by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D.

When You’re HAPPY and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

When You’re MAD and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

When You’re SHY and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

When You’re SILLY and You Know It by Elizabeth Crary, M.S., and Shari Steelsmith

Who is in Your Family? A Celebration in Diversity by Susan Bowman

Words Are Not for Hurting/Las palabras no son para lastimar by Elizabeth Verdick

Yawni and the Perspecto-Goggles: An Emotes Book About Boredom by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Zach Apologizes by William Mulcahy

Zach Get Frustrated by William Mulcahy

No, No, No! by Marie-Isabelle Callier

Ick and the Emotastone: An Emotes Book About Accepting Differences by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

El Ratón, El Monstruo y Yo: Conducta asertiva para los jóvenes by Pat Palmer, Ed.D

The Grouchies (Chase Away a Grumpy Mood) by Debbie Wagenbach

Abash and the Cyber-Bully: An Emotes Book About Bulying by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Super and Perfecto: An Emotes Book About Confidence by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Cant Loses His Cool: An Emotes Book About Temper Tantrums by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Mixy’s Quest: An Emotes Book about Confusion by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

A Happy Hat by Cecil Kim

What to Do When You’re Cranky and Blue by James J. Crist, Ph.D.

How to Be Human: Diary of an Autistic Girl by Florida Franz

Visiting Feelings by Lauren Rubenstein, J.D., Psy.D.

What to Do When It’s Not Fair by Jacqueline B. Toner, Ph.D., and Claire A.B. Freeland, Ph.D.

The Survival Guide for Kids with Behavior Challenges by Tom McIntyre, Ph.D.

Lola Goes to Work: A Nine-to-Five Therapy Dog by Maria Goldman

Boom the Anger Tamer: An Emotes Book About Anger by Matt Casper and Ted Dorsey

Joi’s Cyber-Coaster Adventure: An Emotes Book About Positive Thinking

Healing Days: A Guide for Kids Who Have Experienced Trauma by Susan Farber Straus

Eli’s Lie-O-Meter by Sandra Levins

Goodbye, Brecken by David Lupton

Some Days Are Lonely by Young-Ah Kim

I Can’t Do Anything by Thierry Robberecht

New Kid, New Scene: A Guide to Moving and Switching Schools by Debbie Glassner, Ph.D., and Emily Schneck

Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

 

Trauma

Something Happened and I’m Scared to Tell: A Book for Young Victims of Abuse by Patricia Kehoe, Ph.D.

Algo Paso y Me Da Miedo Decirlo (Something Happened and I’m Scared to Tell) by Patricia Kehoe, Ph.D.

A Terrible Thing Happened: A story for children who have witnessed violence or trauma by Margaret M. Holmes

Jenny Is Scared! When Sad Things Happen in the World by Carol Shuman

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The Use of Art Therapy With Children and Adolescents Who Have a Trauma History

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· August 24, 2014 
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Art Therapy has a longer, richer history than one might think. This excellent paper submitted by reader Paula Jensen delves into the origins and evolution of this creative intervention and, more specifically, its many applications in treatment of trauma. Ms. Jensen earned a gift certificate to childtherapytoys.com for her submission. Learn how you can do the same!

 

Abstract:

Art therapy has been an accepted treatment modality in the therapeutic community for approximately 60 development of art therapy psychological years. Throughout this time, art therapy has been utilized in the treatment of several psychological, the purpose of its use with treating traumatic effects, including amelioration of disorders including trauma. The following review of the literature discusses the disturbances, fostering identity development, self-awareness, self-esteem, its effectiveness associated with the treatment of trauma, and its use as an adjunct with Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

The Use of Art Therapy With Children and Adolescents Who Have a Trauma History

           Art has been a prominent part of world culture since the beginnings of man. The oldest recorded piece of abstract art is dated approximately 70,000 years (Whitehouse, 2002). Cavemen carved hieroglyphics as a way to tell stories and communicate messages while Ancient Egyptians carved markings and pictures into the sides of tombs to symbolize the belief of what happened to the human spirit after death. Native Americans use sand paintings in their healing and initiation ceremonies (Ammann & Sandner, 1991). In his book, Man and His Symbols, psychoanalyst Carl Jung (1964) discussed the value of symbols in relation to human existence. Judith Rubin (1999), a pioneer in art therapy, reported that healers, past and present, utilized art-making because of the universality and related power of the symbolic mode. After being used for self-expression and healing for thousands of years, art is now an accepted modality for the treatment of psychological issues by the therapeutic community.

Art Therapy

            Art therapy is described by the American Art Therapy Association (AATA) (2011) as “[the use of] the creative process of art making to improve and enhance the physical, mental and emotional well-being of individuals of all ages” (p. 1). Art therapy is based on the belief that “the creative process involved in artistic self-expression helps people to resolve conflicts and problems, develop interpersonal skills, manage behavior, reduce stress, increase self-esteem, self-awareness, and achieve insight” (AATA, 2011, p. 1). Contemporary counselors utilize art therapy to address a variety of mental health issues including: “anxiety, depression, substance abuse and addictions; family and relationship issues; abuse and domestic violence; social and emotional difficulties related to disability and illness; trauma and loss; physical, cognitive, and neurological problems; and psychosocial difficulties related to medical illness” (AATA, 2011, p. 1). Art therapy is an innovative modality for addressing a variety of traumatic experiences when working with children and adolescents (Baker, 2006; Buschel & Madsen, 2006; Finn, 2003; Kennedy, 2008; Malchoidi, 2006; Pretorius, 2010; Yohani, 2008).

The Development of Art Therapy

            Carl Jung theorized about the importance of exploring and gaining awareness into the unknown self, memories, and understanding the symbolism within the unconscious mind (Jung, 1916; Jung, 1964). Jung, who participated in creative processes in his own life, explored these symbols with clients and helped them to recreate and interpret the meaning of their experiences (Malchiodi, 2006). Throughout his life, Jung continued to draw and paint, in addition to portraying his dreams in writing and carvings in wood and stone (Gladding, 2006). Through his use of art in psychoanalysis, Carl Jung demonstrated that the artistic process is capable of facilitating a deeper understanding of each level of an individual’s psyche.

Open and read the full document here: Art Therapy and Trauma

 

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Journey Toward Healing

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· July 28, 2014 
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This article comes to us from Megan Boyd and was originally posted on her blog “The Unconventional Counselor”. Be sure to stop by and check out more great posts like this one. (Ms. Boyd earned a gift certificate to childtherapytoys.com for her submission. Learn how you can do the same!)

The entire nation watched in horror as the events of December 14, 2012 unfolded in Newton, Connecticut.  The Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting took the lives of 28 people that day; 20 innocent children, 6 staff members, the perpetrator, and his mother. There is no possible way to wrap your head around what these families and communities have been through.

As helping professionals, our immediate response is to want to figure out some way to help. As a community counselor, I thought about the children I work with, and how I would have reacted or what I would have done if these were my clients in my community. Traumas of this magnitude are so unthinkable that when they do occur we recognize the long journey that this community is going to need to work through in order to find some sense of peace surrounding that devastating day. Moreover, the 1 year anniversary is quickly approaching, which will trigger the emotions and events for each individual experience.

Approximately 20 miles outside of Newton sits the quaint community of Wilton. Filled with historical buildings and beautiful fall foliage, the towns of Wilton & Newton are not estranged. The residents of each share a history of shared trauma from 9/11, and in most social circles there is at least 1 degree of separation from a direct victim of the Sandy Hook massacre.

Within the past 2 days, a team of counselors comprised of faculty and doctoral students from Mercer University’s Counselor Education & Supervision Program had the opportunity to meet with some of these community residents, particularly those in the helping profession, (counselors, case managers, religious leaders, etc.) that were affected by this tragedy.

As a part of this team, I hope we made a tiny impression on their healing. We lead a 3-course workshop surrounding grief, loss, & trauma, sharing information about what they can expect for themselves as well as their clients they are serving. I am grateful for the opportunity be a part of this team. The following themes were addressed with attendees:

*Systemic Loss, (Community/Familial/Relational)

*Tasks of Grief

*Expected behaviors associated with grief/loss for children and adults

*Concerning behaviors associated with grief/loss for children and adults

*The individualized experience of grief/loss

*Trauma responses; including PTSD and symptomology

*How to make a referral

*Attending to scope of practice

*Self-care assessment

As I made my way back to Atlanta, I had some time to reflect on the experience, and I am finding myself feeling hopeful, humbled, and extremely thankful to have been able to be a part of this.

The space for the workshop was provided by Wilton Baptist Church, which was absolutely beautiful. It was upon first entering this building that the gravity of what this population endured began to set in. The people we met were immediately willing to share their story, how they are connected to Newtown, and how they are connected to the helping professionals.  We are especially thankful for the cooperation and collaboration with The Cooperative Baptist Fellowship for coordinating this trip.

After the first day of the workshop, the pastor conducted an inter-faith worship service. He lit a candle for each of the victims. Prior to the candles being lit, I was able to view the alter. Something about seeing this image and what it represented was an overwhelming visual.

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Managing your distress in the aftermath of a school shooting

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· April 3, 2014 
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This important articles comes from the Texas Psychological Association…

You may be struggling to understand how a shooting could occur and why such a terrible thing would happen. There may never be satisfactory answers to these questions.

We do know, though, that it is typical for people to experience a variety of emotions following such a traumatic event. These feelings can include shock, sorrow, numbness, fear, anger, disillusionment, grief and others. You may find that you have trouble sleeping, concentrating, eating or remembering even simple tasks. This is common and should pass after a while. Over time, the caring support of family and friends can help to lessen the emotional impact and ultimately make the changes brought about by the tragedy more manageable. You may feel that the world is a more dangerous place today than you did yesterday. It will take some time to recover your sense of equilibrium.

Meanwhile, you may wonder how to go on living your daily life. You can strengthen your resilience — the ability to adapt well in the face of adversity — in the days and weeks ahead.

Here are some tips:

  • Talk about it. Ask for support from people who care about you and who will listen to your concerns. Receiving support and care can be comforting and reassuring. It often helps to speak with others who have shared your experience so you do not feel so different or alone.
  • Strive for balance. When a tragedy occurs, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and have a negative or pessimistic outlook. Balance that viewpoint by reminding yourself of people and events which are meaningful and comforting, even encouraging. Striving for balance empowers you and allows for a healthier perspective on yourself and the world around you.
  • Turn it off and take a break. You may want to keep informed, but try to limit the amount of news you take in whether it’s from the Internet, television, newspapers or magazines. While getting the news informs you, being overexposed to it can actually increase your stress. The images can be very powerful in reawakening your feeling of distress. Also, schedule some breaks to distract yourself from thinking about the incident and focus instead on something you enjoy. Try to do something that will lift your spirits.
  • Honor your feelings. Remember that it is common to have a range of emotions after a traumatic incident. You may experience intense stress similar to the effects of a physical injury. For example, you may feel exhausted, sore or off balance.
  • Take care of yourself. Engage in healthy behaviors to enhance your ability to cope with excessive stress. Eat well-balanced meals, get plenty of rest and build physical activity into your day. Avoid alcohol and drugs because they can suppress your feelings rather than help you to manage and lessen your distress. In addition, alcohol and drugs may intensify your emotional or physical pain. Establish or re-establish routines such as eating meals at regular times and following an exercise program. If you are having trouble sleeping, try some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation or yoga.
  • Help others or do something productive. Locate resources in your community on ways that you can help people who have been affected by this incident, or have other needs. Helping someone else often has the benefit of making you feel better, too.
  • If you have recently lost friends or family in this or other tragedies. Remember that grief is a long process. Give yourself time to experience your feelings and to recover. For some, this might involve staying at home; for others it may mean getting back to your daily routine. Dealing with the shock and trauma of such an event will take time. It is typical to expect many ups and downs, including “survivor guilt” — feeling bad that you escaped the tragedy while others did not.

For many people, using the tips and strategies mentioned above may be sufficient to get through the current crisis. At times, however an individual can get stuck or have difficulty managing intense reactions. A licensed mental health professional such as a psychologist can assist you in developing an appropriate strategy for moving forward. It is important to get professional help if you feel like you are unable to function or perform basic activities of daily living.

Recovering from such a tragic event may seem difficult to imagine. Persevere and trust in your ability to get through the challenging days ahead. Taking the steps in this guide can help you cope at this very difficult time.

 

This tip sheet was made possible with help from the following APA members: Dewey Cornell, PhD, Richard A. Heaps, PhD, Jana Martin, PhD, H. Katherine O’Neill, PhD, Karen Settle, PhD, Peter Sheras, PhD, Phyllis Koch-Sheras, PhD, and members of Div. 17.

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New book from Liana Lowenstein

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· March 7, 2010 
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Liana Lowenstein, MSW is the author of several books and resources that have served as great references for me over the years. Her newest installment Assessment and Treatment Activities for Children, Adolescents and Families, Volume Two is now available and is just as indispensable as her previous work. Like the first volume, this book is full of effective and practical techniques from veteran practitioners, all expertly compiled and edited by Lowenstein. This is yet another treasure trove of engaging activities and interventions aimed at assessing and treating children of all ages and their families. Many issues are addressed including Feelings Expression, Self-Esteem, Social Skills, and Termination. Volume Two is an updated best-of-the-best collection that should not be missed.

Lowenstein’s previous books are equally essential for mental health professionals. Creative Interventions for Troubled Children & Youthand MORE Creative Interventions for Troubled Children & Youth are best-selling collections filled with creative assessment andtreatment interventions to help clients identify feelings, learn copingstrategies, enhance social skills, and elevate self-esteem. Lowenstein addresses more specific issues in Creative Interventions for Bereaved Children and Creative Interventions for Children of Divorce. The former is a uniquely creative compilation of therapeutic games, art activities,and stories to help bereaved children express feelings of grief, learnbasic concepts of death, diffuse traumatic reminders, addressself-blame, commemorate the deceased, and learn coping strategies. The latter consists of therapeutic games, art techniques, andstories to help children of divorce express feelings, understandmarriage and divorce, deal with loyalty binds, parental conflict, andreunification fantasies, address self-blame, and learn copingstrategies. And of course there’s the original volume of Assessment and Treatment Activities for Children, Adolescents, and FamiliesI mentioned above.

Lowenstein has been a key player in the field of children’s mental health for years and many practitioners, myself included, are always excited and intrigued by her output. The new volume of Assessment and Treatment is yet another gem and hopefully not the last in this series as our field of therapy continues to evolve.

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Helping a Child Deal with Death – FAQs

Posted by Gary Yorke 
· August 11, 2009 
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The following is taken from the latest issue of Diane Cantrell’s wonderful newsletter “Preparing Children for Love, Life, and Loss”. Enjoy and feel free to comment!

Explaining death to a young child as well as dealing with the ramifications of such news is a stressfull task for even the most courageous parents.The loss of the family’s beloved pet is often a child’s first experience with death. Many parents are dealing with their own issues around the loss of their dear friend and family member as well as attempting to explain what is happening to their young child.  Listed below are some frequently asked questions and responses that I hope will serve as a road map during a time when one often feels lost and without guidance.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do pre-school children view the death of a pet?

Pre-school children don’t have the ability to conceptualize the permanence of death.  They think in terms of death as if someone is going on a trip or going to sleep.  Though they can’t understand the finality of loss they do experience great sadness because they miss their pet’s presence.  Unfortunately, children this age don’t have the ability to express their feelings in words.  As a result they may act out their sadness by being irritable, oppositional, withdrawn, or aggressive.

Children from infancy to age 6 are also very egocentric.  They literally believe that the world revolves around them and that things happen because of them.  Thus, the child often blames him/herself for the death of the beloved pet.  For example, if a child has been told not to pull the family dog’s tail, they may think that because they disobeyed this command the dog died.

What are some of the questions they may have?

Due to the child’s inability to conceptualize the permanence of death he/she may repeatedly ask when they will see their pet again or when the pet is coming home.  Children may ask and worry about who is caring for their pet and how the pet is getting their needs met.

How can parents answer these questions?

When responding to children’s questions about death it is important to be honest without giving more information than the child can understand.  For example, an appropriate response to a question about when the family will see their pet again is, “When a pet dies we are never able to see them again but we can remember them forever.”   It is also important to reassure that the pet’s death is not due to anything that the child did or didn’t do.

In response to questions regarding the care of the pet it is important to let the child know that when animals and people die they no longer need to eat, sleep, play or go on walks.  The young child may not fully comprehend this answer but it may relieve them of their worries.  They do need to be reassured that the animal is not in danger or facing further harm.

Telling a child that their pet has gone to sleep may cause anxieties around their own sleep.  Comparing death to falling asleep may be frightening to a child and lead to sleep disturbance.

In general, how can a parent help their child handle the death of a family pet?

There are many things parents can do to assist children in dealing with loss. They are:

1.    Listen, validate and reassure. Be patient in answering repeated questions and assure children that it is okay/normal for them to feel mad, sad, or afraid and tearful.  If your child expresses worry or sadness, you can provide validation by telling them that you feel sad as well.  While acknowledging feelings be sure to let the child know that even though the feelings may be overwhelming they can handle them.

2.    Observe. After the loss of a pet play close attention to your child’s play, artwork, and behavior for these are the blueprints to your child’s feelings and concerns. Remember, children ages 4-6 don’t have the language to express complex emotions but do so through their play and behavior. Notice any themes that may emerge in your child’s play and artwork.  Also be aware of behavior changes such as increased aggressiveness, anger, or withdrawal.  These are signs that your child is having a difficult time with the loss.

3.    Engage.  It is so important to provide opportunities to engage your child in conversation about the loss. Reading fictional picture books that address grief and loss can serve as valuable springboards for discussion.  Having your child tell about their artwork can also lead to meaningful interactions.  Assist the child in planning a special good-bye for their pet.  It may be a traditional funeral or a memorial in which the children draw pictures for the pet, make gifts, and or take a special walk in the pet’s honor.  Children have many good ideas about how they wish to say good-bye to their special family friend. Be sure to ask, listen, and assist in the implementation of these ideas.

–Diane Cantrell, MA, LPC

Diane Cantrell is a former kindergarten teacher and the author of the Mom’s Choice Awards Gold Recipient book Good-Bye, Baby Max, available at ChildTherapyToys.com.

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